In the elder days of Art
Builders wrought with greatest care
Each minute and unseen part;
For the gods see everywhere.
-Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
This has been my .plan file since about 1988. It came to me with one word changed, and attributed to the prolific Anonymous. The www has made it much easier to track these things down and properly attribute them.
Anyway, this sums up my approach to a lot of things, from software to home construction to the running of science fiction conventions.
My friend Wex has written at some length about polyamory for the local poly group.
So why do I have multiple lovers? Because I'm not monogamous. Why am I non-monogamous? I don't know, it's how I am, and it's what works for me. I can truthfully say that I've never been in a monogamous relationship in my life. I lost my virginity with a friend's girlfriend (her idea). The first night with Francie, there was another man in the bed (no, I won't explain). I've had two long-term relationships in my life, and I'm still in both of them. I guess I just don't know how to break up. :)
There are a lot of good sites about Buddhism. A few of them are
Other useful resources:
Paul Selkirk, paul@psgd.org